家长对孩子的三大冷暴力
<p style="white-space: normal; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; widows: 1; text-align: center; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "><span style="color: rgb(192, 80, 77); font-size: 12px; line-height: 23px; ">由心理医生创办的专属公众号</span></p><p style="white-space: normal; text-align: center; "><span style="box-sizing: border-box !important; line-height: 23px; max-width: 100%; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(192, 80, 77); font-size: 12px; "><span style="box-sizing: border-box !important; max-width: 100%; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); ">点击题目下方蓝字关注 </span><span style="box-sizing: border-box !important; max-width: 100%; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(54, 96, 146); "><strong style="box-sizing: border-box !important; max-width: 100%; word-wrap: break-word !important; 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"><span style="box-sizing: border-box !important; max-width: 100%; word-wrap: break-word !important; "></span></strong></span></strong></span></p><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; widows: 1; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; border: 2px solid rgb(122, 54, 54); width: 670px; display: inline-block; box-shadow: rgb(204, 204, 204) 2px 2px 2px; "><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><section style="padding: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center; "><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; ">冷暴力之一：爸妈只顾玩手机</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "></strong></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">4岁男孩波波，由爸爸妈妈和奶奶带到了门诊求医：波波几乎不开口说话，到现在也只能叫一声“妈”，连“爸爸”都不会叫，是不是智商有问题？而对波波进行了各个部位检查，并检验了智力、听力等指标，医生回答没什么问题，问：“平时是不是老人再带孩子，有的老人不爱陪孩子说话，会影响到孩子语言发育。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">爸爸开口说“都是我们夫妻带孩子多，不过我们俩陪孩子都爱看手机...说到这，爸爸恍然大悟“所以才影响孩子开口说话吧？”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">“是啊！不知道你们是怎么当家长的，现在的小夫妻看手机时间比看孩子时间还多！你玩你的，孩子玩孩子的，也没有一点交流，孩子缺乏语言刺激，自然不会说话！”波波的父母都羞红了脸，尴尬地相视一笑。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">“回到家就把手机关了，啥都别玩，就陪着孩子玩，多跟孩子说话，教他念念唐诗......”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">很震惊吧？</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">https://www.9axl.com/./data/attachment/forum/wx/K04Q43bic5kQZ6qOZKiabfmWkwhHu5lID3GWFNxGeHBTPvtVEiaWOeMxA87dU8vrF3QnaXwOVTLZr7DeAq15tlQwg.jpg</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(122, 54, 54); "></span></strong><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(122, 54, 54); ">那些回到家，孩子要求你讲故事，让你帮讲解题目，而你们只知道玩手机的爸妈，你们造吗？这就是你们对孩子的第一个冷暴力。</span></strong></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "></p></section><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; white-space: normal; widows: 1; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "></p><p style=""></p><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; widows: 1; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; border: 2px solid rgb(122, 54, 54); width: 670px; display: inline-block; box-shadow: rgb(204, 204, 204) 2px 2px 2px; "><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><section style="padding: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center; "><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; ">冷暴力之二：孩子叫父母的时候，不秒回</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "></strong></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">孩子总喜欢兴冲冲的跑到父母面前，叫着“快看我！”，时间久了，父母因工作忙或有正在考虑的事情，难免不耐烦对孩子吼叫“别烦我！”后置之不理。但！这就是冷暴力哦。偶尔一次还罢了，这样次数多了，孩子会觉得，原来对妈妈来说，自己并不重要呢。觉得自己没得到爱，有挫败感，日后心理健康，和人交往都会很受影响。换位思考，如果你有一件非常想和别人分享的事，别人没有及时回应，我们是不是也有挫败感呢，是不是觉得你不爱我了。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">https://www.9axl.com/./data/attachment/forum/wx/K04Q43bic5kQZ6qOZKiabfmWkwhHu5lID3ECrZtEEibZoHMAVTCtfuARBKB8TzRds8OxRSxS4qwWNrwIapVQkWn1Q.jpg</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(122, 54, 54); ">记住哦：能与孩子互动并积极回应的父母，培养出的孩子更积极，更聪明，学习能力更强。因为孩子渴望得到关注是有学习欲望的表现，下次孩子叫自己的时候，一定要“秒回”！</span></strong></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "></p></section><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; widows: 1; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; border: 2px solid rgb(122, 54, 54); width: 670px; display: inline-block; box-shadow: rgb(204, 204, 204) 2px 2px 2px; "><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><section style="padding: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; text-align: center; "><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; ">冷暴力之三：不理解孩子的情绪</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "></strong></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">家长常常对孩子说“我知道了”，而不是去细心地听孩子叙述整个事情的经过，这样的表现，在孩子的眼里，家长就是不理解自己。比如孩子在幼儿园被打了，看到他哭的很伤心，你不要急乎乎的想找人家家长算账，你先要做的是理解并回应孩子的情绪。你说“是的，我知道你很委屈，我们一起想想怎样解决才好。”等你说完其实孩子已经感觉好多了。如果家长只是帮宝宝解决问题，而不注意及时地回应宝宝的情绪，虽然也帮助到了孩子，但也是一种欠缺，并不是最高质量的回应，也是冷暴力的一种哦。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; ">https://www.9axl.com/./data/attachment/forum/wx/K04Q43bic5kQZ6qOZKiabfmWkwhHu5lID3yxhXx3822BzkoOPAqCM52N8CfhHxCJIpYZ3HerfM9NSFzicU7pI4AoA.jpg</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(122, 54, 54); ">留给孩子一点空间，不要急于安慰。听说其他小朋友排斥或者嘲笑你的孩子，做父母的一定感觉不舒服。但你也不需要立刻安慰他说，“他们不对，你是个好孩子”。只是简单的说出他的感觉就好，“遇到这样的事，肯定会难过的”。也许这就能让他感觉好多了，等冷静一些之后，他也能更加客观地回想刚才的情景。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; min-height: 1em; "><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; "><span style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(122, 54, 54); "></span></strong></p></section></section></section></section></section><p style=""></p><p style="white-space: normal; "><span style="box-sizing: border-box !important; max-width: 100%; word-wrap: break-word !important; 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