newday200 发表于 2018-11-4 19:08:01

如何做好青春期孩子的父母?这个问题98%的家庭都有!

<section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;padding-top: 1.3em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-top: 2px solid rgb(29, 84, 190);border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(29, 84, 190);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: -16px;margin-left: 30%;margin-right: 30%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="transform: rotate(45deg);-webkit-transform: rotate(45deg);-moz-transform: rotate(45deg);-o-transform: rotate(45deg);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 30px;height: 30px;border-left: 2px solid rgb(29, 84, 190);border-top: 2px solid rgb(29, 84, 190);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 22px;height: 22px;margin: 2px;border-width: 2px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(29, 84, 190);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 16px;height: 16px;margin: 1px auto auto;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(29, 84, 190);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0px;margin: 1px auto auto;border-left: 12px solid rgb(29, 84, 190);border-bottom: 12px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: center;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0px;line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">点击关注简单好家长,每天看点对孩子有用的</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 10px 0% 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">怎么做好中学生的家长,是让很多父母头疼的问题,因为中学阶段,孩子已经有了很强的自我意识,不再像以前那么愿意听从父母的安排,有的家长担心孩子早恋,有的家长为孩子即将面临的重大考试着急,那么面对这些情况如何和孩子沟通呢?</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">今天,叶子老师想跟各位家长分享陈默老师对中学生生活、学习、同伴交往等多方面的建议,注意到这些问题,做好中学生的家长就不再那么难了!</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子青春期的生理变化</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">究竟意味着什么?</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子的苦恼可能就来自于体型</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">当孩子生理迅速发展时,心理会有变化。试想,当一个男孩子长得跟爸爸一样高,他心里会怎么想:嘿嘿,你敢打我吗?</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">再比如,特别瘦的男孩和特别胖的女孩,他们平时的苦恼就可能就来自于体型。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">这时候家长注意千万不要对孩子体征进行评价。比如,“我家女儿哪都好,就是眼睛有点小。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">对男孩来说,头面部特征越早趋向成人,越有利,利于他定下来,在同龄人中有领袖潜质。但女孩则相反。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">一个男孩子学习很好,但是掰手腕掰不过别的男同学,他就可能心情不好,觉得女孩子会看不起他。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">所以家长如果知道孩子在苦恼什么,就可以和他说,现在这个时代,学习能力更重要,你的学习能力很强,完全值得骄傲。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">一个“女朋友”是不够的,要多交几个</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">很多家长在担心早恋。早恋这个概念,其实是没有的,是不是没拿工资的恋爱都叫早恋?家长放心,在这个年龄,孩子是恋不起来的,高中生会,你别看就差这3年。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">但是,孩子会模仿。那家长该怎么办呢?我们可以这么和孩子说——</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><blockquote><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“孩子,你这个年龄就是要学习社会交往的。告诉妈妈,你有几个好哥们?”</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“我哥们多了,七八个。”</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“异性朋友呢?”</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“一个。”</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“怎么才一个?!不行,妈妈希望多几个,你现在就应该广交朋友。”</span></p></blockquote><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">这样说的好处是,孩子把交朋友当成应该做的事。男孩子如果和多个异性朋友交往,啥事都不会有。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">告诉女孩,如何防止别人性骚扰</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">女孩子进入这个年龄,妈妈一定要做一件事,这件事非常重要——告诉孩子,如何防止别人性骚扰。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">比如,告诉女儿,当她和一个异性在一个房间里,无论他是谁,不能让他身体靠近你,你身体的一些部位,别人是不能碰的,穿内衣的部位,如果有人碰,一定要大叫把他推开。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">如果把这个事教好了,男女孩子交往不会有事。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">记忆容量的巅峰期</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">该怎么鼓励孩子阅读</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">人一生中记忆容量最高的时期,是在初中。</strong>那么,请一定鼓励孩子阅读!</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">怎么叫鼓励呢?“你不要玩手机了,不要玩电脑了,多看看书好不好!”这不是鼓励,孩子会很反感,觉得你喜欢看书,我喜欢玩手机,这怎么了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">家长应该说,孩子,人的记忆容量最高峰是在初中,看的东西一生不忘,像爸妈这个年龄,看的东西前看后忘,我们有时候记得的,就是初中时看的东西。所以爸妈希望你多多阅读,对你一生都有好处。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">你没想到</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子长大的阻力就是父母!</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">初中孩子的情绪特点就是波动非常大。<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">因为激素分泌,内心非常躁动。</strong>国外的做法是给孩子大量的体育活动,让他去释放。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">可是我们的孩子,和成年人没什么区别,就是坐着,顶多一星期两节体育课。躁动一旦被压抑了,不是个好事情,它一定会找个出口要出来的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">初中生的情绪经常是两个极端,有时很兴奋,有时很低落抑郁。背后的原因,是进入了“第二反抗期”(第一个反抗期在两三岁)。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">两个反抗期,都是为了寻求自主,第一个是追求身体自主,第二个是追求精神自主。在这个年龄,社会已经把孩子看成大孩子了,他自己也要去寻找这样的心理确认。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">人长大是一个命题,但长大是很难的。父母一直是孩子长大的阻力,尤其是独生子女的父母,只是你自己都不觉得。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">很多独生子女的问题,都是因为父母不允许他长大。<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">长大的最高标志是什么?是选择。</strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">理论上,0—6岁的孩子,父母控制;6—12岁,共同控制;12岁后,孩子自己控制。可是在中国可能吗,我看30岁的儿子都是60岁的老娘在控制。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">“长大”是必须,你让必须的事情完不成,一定有麻烦的。当一个人感觉不到环境是允许他长大的,他能做的是什么?抗争!必须打这一仗,让他长大。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">那么麻烦来了。家长说东,孩子说西,家长这时候用强力让孩子往东的话,你放心,你打不过他的,我见过太多例子了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">聪明的家长是既不说东也不说西,而是说孩子这是你自己的事情,你自己决定吧。孩子一定会选东,因为他知道东是好地方,他之前不选东是因为你选了东。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">除了硬反抗的,还有软反抗的。孩子不跟你直接反抗,但是他就像熄了火一样,干什么都提不起精神。还有不硬抗也不软抗的,就是转移,天天打游戏,睬都不睬你。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以,不要和孩子打这个仗,你一定输。</strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">如果父母是沉重的水泥板,压在孩子上面,孩子要长大,他穿不透水泥板,就一定会长歪。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">放手让孩子长大本来就是我们的目的,但很多家长道理都明白,做起来很难。所以提醒妈妈们,一定要跟着孩子一起长大。在这点上,爸爸们往往做得好一点。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子的同伴关系几乎是“致命”的</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我用的词是“致命”。他可以为这个东西去死,可以为这个东西不上学,很正常,你不能理解的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">因为在这个年龄段,他是通过把同伴对他的评价综合起来,认识他自己是谁。<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">同伴对他的评价权重占70%</strong>,你对他的评价不重要的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我们有时候会在不知道的情况下犯错误。比如孩子交了一个朋友,很要好。你问:“你这个朋友成绩怎么样?”“我们班倒数第二。”“儿子,不要和他玩了,没有好处的。”有的老师也会这样处理。但这样不会有好结果。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">应该怎么做呢——</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><blockquote><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“你这个朋友成绩怎么样?”</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“班里倒数第二。”</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(165, 165, 165);box-sizing: border-box;">“儿子,是不是哥们,是哥们就拉人家一把。你第二名,他倒数第二名,多帮帮他,都是前五名了,不是很好吗?”</span></p></blockquote><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">孩子帮助朋友不等于自己也复习一遍吗。小孩子教小孩子效果很好的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">所以一定要注意孩子的同伴关系,它非常重要。高兴不高兴是它,愿不愿意上学也是它。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">解决好这4个问题</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子会爆发出惊人的学习动力</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">有一次我到一个学校,问初一一个班的学生:为什么要学习?有回答“为老妈”,有回答“为教育局”。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">家长说平时都是给他讲的,竞争这么激烈,要好好学习,好好学习才能上好大学,毕了业才能有好工作,有好工作才能过上好日子。孩子问那什么算好日子呢?家长说大概是有房有车吧。孩子说现在就有房有车了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">所以中国人从来说不清什么是好日子,大概就是比邻居好的日子叫好日子。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">这个年龄段的孩子脑子里有4个问题,如果你战胜了这4个问题,孩子将爆发出非常强的学习的动力——</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. 学习有什么意义?</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">读书是没有什么意义的,有时候反而就是无欲则刚。你给孩子说,地球上有人和动物,你看看猫过的什么日子?一千年前猫怎么过现在还怎么过,可人不同。</span><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">人过的是创造性的生活,因为人会学习,大自然给了人的大脑就是用来学习的,课堂学习是狭隘的一部分。你不学习也可以啊,那跟猫狗来到这个世界是一样的。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. 学习有什么用?</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">课堂学习就是在训练思维,思维训练到一个高的水平,怎么看出来呢?</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">你到乡下去,找个跟我年龄差不多的老太婆,提一个同样的问题,这时候就看出差别来了。我会三角函数会解析几何,懂得变量之间的关系。如果这两个老太婆让你带一个回去,你带哪个呢?</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. 不是不想学,可是学习太苦了</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">孩子,苦是情绪,感觉是想法引起的,不是事情引起的。要改的是想法。比如,有个人请你和一个和尚一起吃饭,桌上全是蔬菜。和尚一看,觉得这个人太尊重我了。你一看,什么意思,请我吃个饭全是蔬菜。</span><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">同一件事,就是因为想法不一样,两个人反应不同。人和动物不同,耕耘有收获,人就有乐趣。没有比课堂学习更体现耕耘收获的了,这就是人的乐趣。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. 某某某小学没毕业,现在是亿万富翁</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">发财是特质决定的,第一是投资魄力,第二要行动力极强,第三赚一百万能把四十万分掉。小学没毕业,活得很辛苦的人更多。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">人有两部分享受,物质和精神,而动物只有物质享受,家长不要把功利的东西套在孩子身上。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">正确和孩子沟通的四个建议</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">有的孩子到初二变化会很大,爱说话突然变得话少了。和孩子沟通,一定要讲究方法。<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. 少言</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">和中学生沟通,话要少一点,因为他会屏蔽你,听不进去。</span></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. 正确倾听</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">孩子和你说话时,手上的工作要赶紧停下来,认真听他说,不要打断,听完之后小结一下确认一下是不是有误解。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. 正确询问</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">孩子和你说假话,一定是你没本事听真话。人都是趋利避害的,讲真话要倒霉谁还讲真话。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">a.问的态度是要帮助他,而不是审问他。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">b.解除他的心理防御。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">c.为他保密,不管说什么。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. 聊天要共情</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">为什么有的孩子情愿和别人说话,不愿和父母说话?一定是父母说话方式有问题。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">和任何人聊天,一开口,一定要表达对对方情绪的理解、共情,而不是分析对错。人人都有能力自己解决问题,只要你共情他,给他力量。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">如果各位家长学不会,我教你<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">一个最简单的办法,无论孩子说什么,你就回答“噢,是这样啊……”“噢,是这样啊……”</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">如何做好中学生的家长?</strong></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(152, 152, 152);border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0px;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;border-top: 9px solid rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;border-left: 9px solid transparent !important;border-right: 9px solid transparent !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1. 正确面对考分</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">考分是我们家长的目标和策略,但很多家长总把这个挂在嘴边,欲速不达,不讲智慧。正确面对考分——</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">考得好,嗯,可以,应该的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">考得不好,要注意了。在中国这种环境,你放心吧,考得不好孩子心里一定清楚的,在学校是没好果子的。在这种情况下,他考不好回到家,家本来是有疗伤的功能的。这时候你要安慰他,胜败是兵家常事,这一点小小的失败算什么,我们来找找原因看……</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2. 认可孩子的努力</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">不要否定孩子,不要说他不努力。很多家长不是在亲戚面前说:“我家孩子很聪明的,要是再努力点就好了。”真不可以这样的。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3. 制造和谐的家庭气氛</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">情绪不好造成学习问题,是可逆的。要记住四个字,孩子读书,“心神安宁”。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">夫妻不和是很常见的一种情况:妈妈要注意,责任很重大,小孩子和妈妈的关系天然紧密,小孩子天生就是要为妈妈战斗的,夫妻打架如果妈妈赢了,啥事没有,可惜妈妈不会赢……</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">如果吵完架,妈妈情绪很差,还更孩子诉苦:都是为了你,不然早跟他离婚了。这样,孩子会把妈妈不幸福的原因归结于自己。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4. 不拿孩子与人比较</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">在外人面前,一定夸奖自己孩子。一群妈妈在一起聊天,一定会扯到自己孩子,如果讲了不好的,孩子听到会很受伤。如果话题扯到自己孩子,妈妈一定要把话题转移开。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5.正面鼓励孩子</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">要跟青春期孩子相处好,就记住一句:实实在在相信他。孩子的进步是有过程的,从25%到50%到75%到100%,只要你始终真的相信他,他终有一天会告诉你,他长大了。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6. 欣赏自己的孩子</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">一个孩子,全世界的人都可以不要他,妈妈不能不要他。但很多妈妈就说过类似的话,如果你怎样怎样,妈妈就不要你了。妈妈讲这种话,对孩子很伤很伤。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">不要总是挑剔女儿,对儿子不要像根藤一样缠着。孩子在用潜意识看着妈妈,天底下所有的孩子都会愿意为母亲牺牲的。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">7. 鼓励孩子助人</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">如果你希望孩子成为竞争力很强的人,要鼓励他助人。我们很多家长只有本事培养竞争感很强的孩子,没有本事培养竞争力很强的孩子。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">什么样的孩子竞争力才强?你应该经常和孩子说,你要看看别人是不是需要帮助,要帮助别人。当孩子在注意看能怎样帮助别人的时候,他就会觉得自己能力很强,别人给他的反馈也都是正面的。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我们总给孩子说要多考分数,要超过某某某,恰恰这样培养不出孩子的竞争力,只有竞争感,等到哪天他遇到了无法超过的对手,他的精神就会瓦解。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">8. 克服自身焦虑</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">妈妈的情绪是和孩子连接在一起的。焦虑的妈,嘴里始终在说考试。人一旦焦虑,就很难投入。</p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 30px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;margin-right: 5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);margin-top: 0.5em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(249, 110, 87);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: center;font-size: 15px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">9. 正确处理网络游戏</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">不要轻易给孩子戴帽子——我家孩子有网瘾。成瘾没那么简单的。孩子只是时间分配的问题。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">凡是爹妈说过“不许玩电脑”的,孩子一定摸了电脑就不肯放手,只要有个机会就赶快玩。只能跟孩子契约化:玩游戏可以,但要约定时间,承担违约责任。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 5%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;transform: translate3d(0px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 2em;display: inline-block;margin: auto;border-width: 3px;border-left-style: solid;border-left-color: rgb(254, 178, 38);color: rgb(254, 178, 38);text-align: center;line-height: 1.2;padding-right: 2px;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: 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